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Peyton Quinn author of Freedom From Fear and, The Science & Art of Love &Romance A strategy for success, a program for healing

You are worthy of being loved. You are capable of giving love in return, and with a little help, you can truly find that love too... And you can get past the pain as well.

Don't go it alone here, the prize is too important and besides others have already been where you are now. None of us can live long enough to make all the mistakes, we just don't have the time for that! You need to understand the reality of love and the immutable THREE STAGES OF LOVE.

TURNING PAIN INTO PURPOSE The search for love can bring you into a battlefield . If you have already been terribly injured on that battlefield of love, Then now you need to learn how to turn that 'Pain' into 'Purpose'

The three stages of Love

How do I make it stop hurting?

Men & women just have different Brain Wiring

A person can only be happy, if that person is first, HAPPY WITH THEMSELVES !

This is exactly what Bruce Springstien meant when he sang:

"Its a sad man my friend who's living in his own skin and can't stand the company!"

I have known the terrible pain that comes from a lost and truly romantically loved person. There was a time when I too thought it was the 'End of the World".

But the real 'end of the world" is simply death. You will survive, you will move on, but please let me help you learn from your experience.

In this way you can realize how to do that and find the courage to try again. And to try again with a far and more mature understanding of what love really is, and of course what it really is not.

And you simply must do that too, try again.

But please let me help you make productive sense of that painful experience and thus allow you to make natural and productive 'use' of your bitter experience.

There is a love for you out there and I mean for sure.

Because we all need love an those who are where you now have been perhaps see this more clearly than very most.

You can find and identify those people when you learn and thus know how to recognize them.

I am not writing about just how to get a woman or man "into bed" here people.

So if that is your sole focus then maybe you just should move on now as you are not as yet ready to absorb the information provided here.

But do you wonder and maybe cry and lose sleep over thinking:

Why did she (or he) leave me?

Well the truth is that it likely had very little to do with you as a person. But that is very hard to accept or even understand right now isn't it?

Right now it might well seem like it "all about you', but it truly is not really.

'Timing' can be everything in love really.

Do you even think 'How can I get them back?'

Well the short answer here is you can't.

But far more importantly you won't want to either once you can accept and really grasp objectively the truth of things and what really happen in that past relationship.

This kind of personal objectivity just isn't really possible when you are immersed in the biochemistry of that romantic relationship.

You did not really know where you were going or headed for in your first romantic loving relationship did you? And maybe not even in your second or third either

I want you to get to where you need to be and to start to learn from your past and make it work for you. I have done this, and I truly believe that you can too. You need to pas beyond the suffering of loss and put it to work for to more rewardingly move on and not only pass through the resent pain, but use that so painfully acquired experience to find the person you need a seek to love. future.

And there is a future for you in genuine love.

However, it is you who must seek and fulfill that destiny yourself.

My books are nothing more than just a good roadmap, but it is you who must ultimately make the journey for yourself.

In knowing the three stages of love and their attributes and key identifiers the reader can much better understand and cope with the pain of a past failed romantic relationship.

Moreover, this knowledge will significantly help you to 'reframe' that past emotional trauma with your lost love in a way that reduces some, or even most, of the discordance and pain.

This helps greatly in clearing the path for you in your future pursuit of finding and giving enduring love.

Equally importantly you will be much better able to see what is actually going on in any new relationship with a new and far greater clarity. And thus you will be able handle that new relationship in a more productive and rewarding way.

Look at it this way, every well adjusted and normal person seeks and needs love. (and nobody is totally well adjusted and 'normal', if there even is such a thing as 'normal')

So despite what the 'love gurus" might tell you, their is no juts one 'soul mate' out there for you.

In fact there are a sea of them and they are all looking for a decent person who will reciprocate their feelings and love them too.

But it is true that each of you only need find and recognize the other and then, in the fullness of time come to recognize and cherish the other.

And understand that person you will find is most likely doing just that very same thing too!

Understand that it does does not ' serve you' at all to 'live in the past'. Because to do so blocks your way to your much more fulfilling future.

You can use this painful knowledge and experience that you have already paid such a terrible price for to find then RECOGNIZE the ones you can truly share love with in that future.

You can either allow your life to be ruled fundamentally by fear, or you can determine that you will live by rational hope and be as happy as you can be!.

We are born with only two natural fears, infants only have a fear of loud noises and a fear of falling. All your other other fears are learned, and so they can be UNLEARNED TOO!

Have you ever wondered why you make the same mistakes with people over and over, and yet of course they get the same undesirable result over and over?

There is a reason for this and you can break these cycles of self-defeating behaviors that simply do not serve you.

The root of solving this problem is first recognizing that your are not "deciding" to behave in this self-defeating fashion, you have been conditioned to do so by past events.

These are thus not conscious "choices' you are making but reflex behaviors operating on the non-self-aware level of your mind.

But when you understand the process by which all this occurs, then you can really begin to "catch yourself' and make conscious decision that will serve you in just about any type of situation.

You will learn to make your own productive decisions in handling people be it at work, or in personal relationships

But especially you will see how this new perspective and understanding is so effective for you in dealing with 'bullies' of any type and 'over bearing people' who would seek to intimidate you (on any level) to get what they want from you.